2018- man what a year. A year that may have broken others and in many ways broke me. Have you ever heard that old saying "sometimes things have to fall apart so better things can come together?" It couldn't be more true when I look back. This past week I took steps to really do… Continue reading Planning Ahead and New Beginnings
The first Christmas just my daughter, my dog and I. I was super excited to just focus on us and make it really special I didn't even think about presents for myself until a friend mentioned it. Honestly, it wasn't on my radar. I usually had to nag my ex husband (I mean literally every… Continue reading A Divorced Christmas
When you're waiting for something you really want, time always seems to move just a little slower. That couldn't be more true in regards to our divorce papers. As I wait for them to come back signed from the judge I'm anxious, not because of what they symbolize, honestly I consider myself divorced at this… Continue reading Why I’m changing my name back
As we approach Thanksgiving, I've been trying to name the feeling that I keep grappling with. It's not sadness, it's not hopeful, it's not dread. But I know, as I walk into my family's dinner gathering tomorrow, there will be people who hug me and think I need the extra support, people who feel bad… Continue reading Finding the things to be thankful for
I celebrate everything, the dogs birthday, every first, seriously,any reason for a party or a selfie. Divorce isn’t something typically celebrated and I didn’t understand why you’d want to until I got divorced. While were still not 100% officially divorced, it feels like we’re on the other side of the drama (usually) and starting a… Continue reading Celebrate Good Times, come on!
Divorce. You can almost feel the shame seeping from the word when you say it. I know the divorce rate is ridiculously high in America and that’s unbelievably sad. I never set out to be a statistic. I didn’t and I don’t think anyone does get married anticipating they will get divorced. But the question… Continue reading Putting on a Brave Face
A few weeks ago I shared about dating through a separation and divorce, it's certainly not easy. No matter who you are, or what your situation, divorce isn't easy. It's not something you can just pick up from and move on. It requires taking a hard look at yourself, at the reasons why your marriage… Continue reading How Do I Love Again?
I will be the first to admit I was sheltered through my adolescence. I’m blessed to have parents that have been married for 46 years. Walking through the season of divorce, I’ve learned so much about me, about my relationships, about life. I’ve learned words I thought I knew the meaning of. I’ve grown. Narcissists/Narcissistic… Continue reading A Divorce Vocabulary
If there's one thing I wasn't looking forward to coming out of my divorce, it was dating. Everyone I know gave me the same advice, don't rush it, don't just start dating right away if you're not ready. News flash: as much as this season of life is hard, as much as it sucks, if… Continue reading Adventures in Dating (Single Mom Style)
One of the best things I could have possibly done for myself the day I asked my ex husband to leave was to get a therapist. If we're really being honest, I called before he even got home. I'm blessed for a lot of things, one is my time as a military spouse. Because of… Continue reading Move Over Couch, Hello Skype